Living arrangements are among the first things to discuss after the initial divorce conversation. If you and your spouse are getting a divorce, one of you can move out, or you can both remain in the family home until the divorce is finalized. The latter option saves money, but you need to be extra careful, as it’s likely to create conflicts.
Here is how you can live together during your divorce:
Live in separate areas
It helps to live in separate areas of the residence. One of you can move to another bedroom or the guest house/basement if you have one. You should also move personal items to your designated areas, such as clothes, computers, and so on.
Then, discuss how you will share communal spaces. Who will be cooking, doing laundry or watching TV at a particular time? Doing this can help minimize contact.
Additionally, set boundaries regarding each other’s private areas. For instance, one should not enter the other’s space without permission.
Divide household responsibilities
Create a chore list to ensure you maintain the house without conflict. These include cleaning, taking out the trash, pet care duties and so forth.
Besides, agree on how you will handle shared expenses, such as mortgage/rent, groceries and utilities. You can open a new joint account for shared expenses to prevent cases of constantly seeking reimbursements from each other.
Always use written communication when confirming agreements.
Have a temporary parenting schedule
If you have a child, it’s important to create a temporary parenting schedule even though you will be living in the same house. Establish clear on and off-duty days, stating who will be responsible for school drop-off/pick up, meals, homework and bedtimes each day.
Living together when going through a divorce offers financial benefits when approached from the right angle. Learn more about how you can have a smooth divorce.