Not every divorce is filled with anger or resentment. Sometimes, love can shift to something more platonic. You might still care deeply for your ex, laugh at the same jokes and even lean on each other for support. But staying close after a divorce comes with its own set of questions and challenges.
You may wonder if the closeness will benefit or harm your future. These are genuine concerns, especially if you are trying to move forward emotionally. Staying best friends can work for some, but it takes honesty, balance and strong personal boundaries.
When friendship follows the split
Many people keep meaningful relationships after divorce. But being best friends is different from just being friendly. It often means regular contact, emotional check-ins and shared routines. If this sounds like your situation, know this:
- Emotional healing may slow down: Staying close can blur the line between ending the relationship and starting a new chapter. It might feel comforting, but it can delay personal growth.
- Future relationships might get complicated: A new partner could struggle to understand why you are still so connected. This could lead to tension or mistrust down the road.
- Clear boundaries are a must: Friendship after divorce works best when both of you know where the limits are, emotionally, physically and socially.
- Shared responsibilities can keep you connected: If you are co-parenting or managing shared property, maintaining a good friendship might help. Just make sure it does not mask unresolved feelings.
- Check in with yourself often: Be honest about whether this friendship still serves you or if it is holding you back from fully moving on.
If you are still friendly with your ex, it is important to take it slow. Everyone’s path looks different. Still, having some support in the background, especially someone who understands the process, a therapist, legal professional or friend, can help you make choices that protect your heart and your future.